I just arrived in Fort Lauderdale and tonight we had a meeting to start off our retreat in Bimini! One of my favorite thought leaders, Lou, is the facilitator for this week and boy does he set the stage. We began with a passage from The Four Agreements. If you haven’t read the book you should. Be impeccable with your WORD. Seems easy right?
Think of it this way. If your words were like a contract and you were legally obligated to adhere to what you said, would you change how you spoke?
If there were repercussions for not adhering to your words would you be the one that ends up in court?
The truth is we can all do better at saying what we mean and meaning what we say. We all communicate via our own set of perspectives. If something scares you, say “it’s scares me” not “it’s scary” because the people around you may not see it the same way that you do. Instead of “you make me feel” say “I feel” because again the person you are speaking to may not see through your perspectives.
Human nature makes it difficult to follow through with this. We all have our own voices in our heads that dictate how we communicate with each other. My goal for this week, and beyond, is to strictly adhere to this principle. Will you join me?
Think of your words as a contract: if you were upheld to the words you use how would you speak differently? If you tell someone “I’ll be there” but don’t mean it, what are the repercussions?
People will trust you less, invite you less, think you’re a flake or simply not think your words have much value. Practise saying “I’ll try to be there” or whatever suits, even if it’s “no, I won’t be able to”.
Be impeccable with your word! What does that really mean? Mean what you say! If you say you are going to be somewhere, show up.