I was just on a call this morning with two volleyball olympians. WOW.. I just love learning from elite performers. Many things came up on the call...out of so many there were two insights that really resonate with me!
These women are at the top of their game, and their thought around building confidence was 12 years of working hard. They literally had exhausted themselves.
Working this hard became a push; which at times turned into anxiety and, as a result, made it difficult to generate confidence. Many times the result was their thoughts becoming “I am not good enough.”
Have you ever felt that way while pushing so hard to make something happen? I have found that things not happening, and especially things not happening in our own timeframes, equate the same at times in our minds.
A lot of confidence comes from SELF TALK and good SELF TALK comes from having confidence. So what do we do?
If we can shift our definition of confidence from “I’m only confident when I get the results I want” into “I am confident that when I go through my own process, I have the highest likelihood of achieving the results I want” magic can happen. The more chances you can create for your goals to be achieved the higher the likelihood you have of success.
The shift for these olympians was changing the thought in their minds to “everything I need to have is already in me and I will figure it out!”
The goal is that when things go astray, they are grounded enough to adjust, and pivot to a different plan of attack. The finish line remains the same yet the route taken to cross it changes. They work smarter towards their goals, not just harder.
What areas of your life can you apply this shift to? Where can you work smarter and not just harder? Where can you take pride in your process and tell yourself you know you’ll have plenty of chances to succeed here?